Comments on: Living in the Now http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/2008/06/living-in-the-now/ KIYAMANI Realign the Way You Live™ Tue, 07 Sep 2010 02:34:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: kathleen http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/2008/06/living-in-the-now/#comment-13 kathleen Mon, 09 Jun 2008 19:56:33 +0000 http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/?p=20#comment-13 Jeff, I appreciate your clear, beautiful way of expressing, I felt as if I was in there! Thanks for enjoying your journey, and showing me how to enjoy mine!.. Jeff, I appreciate your clear, beautiful way of expressing, I felt as if I was in there! Thanks
for enjoying your journey, and showing me how
to enjoy mine!..

]]> By: Dana http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/2008/06/living-in-the-now/#comment-12 Dana Mon, 09 Jun 2008 19:32:16 +0000 http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/?p=20#comment-12 What strikes me about what you share here, Jeff, is the way you just stayed with the situation until you got the connection with your father. And from observing you, that's how you move through life. I hope you'll say more about how you remember or practice just sitting with something until the opening or connection occurs. For me, it's tough sometimes-to shift my focus off the feelings--the frustration or sadness--and the intellectual commentary about what's going on. But when I do, it can be magic. I call that need to fix or react, "the grip." It's like I feel the need to grab something... I'm clenching my fist as I sit here writing about it, that's how strong the urge can be for me to DO SOMETHING about the situation... Reading about your last day with dad helped me see that while I often remember to suspend the "grip" when I'm being of service to another--the need for compassion becomes paramount--I could benefit from extending that practice to myself and others I don't perceive as weakened. Accepting grief and loss as permanent is one of the grand challenges of our time, it certainly is in my life. What strikes me about what you share here, Jeff, is the way you just stayed with the situation until you got the connection with your father. And from observing you, that’s how you move through life. I hope you’ll say more about how you remember or practice just sitting with something until the opening or connection occurs.

For me, it’s tough sometimes-to shift my focus off the feelings–the frustration or sadness–and the intellectual commentary about what’s going on. But when I do, it can be magic.

I call that need to fix or react, “the grip.” It’s like I feel the need to grab something… I’m clenching my fist as I sit here writing about it, that’s how strong the urge can be for me to DO SOMETHING about the situation… Reading about your last day with dad helped me see that while I often remember to suspend the “grip” when I’m being of service to another–the need for compassion becomes paramount–I could benefit from extending that practice to myself and others I don’t perceive as weakened.

Accepting grief and loss as permanent is one of the grand challenges of our time, it certainly is in my life.

]]> By: j.a.h. http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/2008/06/living-in-the-now/#comment-11 j.a.h. Thu, 05 Jun 2008 14:41:15 +0000 http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/?p=20#comment-11 My grandmother suffered from this disease, and unfortunately I was so young, I just have tiny memories of her before the disease took hold. Even in the worst of it, she and my grandfather were so beautiful together, especially when she asked him to dance. And in every moment, she was telling me and everyone in the family how much she loved us. She pursued her joys for as long as she could. The gigantic 5,000 piece puzzles she loved to do, became 500 piece puzzles, and then the 50 piece puzzle of the United States. The fantastic and complicated quilts, became simpler quilts, until she could no longer make them. And the same was true for her other talents and pursuits. Her passion for life was unshakable. I wish I could have known her before the disease, but after all I think I do know her. My grandmother suffered from this disease, and unfortunately I was so young, I just have tiny memories of her before the disease took hold. Even in the worst of it, she and my grandfather were so beautiful together, especially when she asked him to dance. And in every moment, she was telling me and everyone in the family how much she loved us. She pursued her joys for as long as she could. The gigantic 5,000 piece puzzles she loved to do, became 500 piece puzzles, and then the 50 piece puzzle of the United States. The fantastic and complicated quilts, became simpler quilts, until she could no longer make them. And the same was true for her other talents and pursuits. Her passion for life was unshakable. I wish I could have known her before the disease, but after all I think I do know her.

]]> By: John http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/2008/06/living-in-the-now/#comment-10 John Thu, 05 Jun 2008 12:14:17 +0000 http://jeffkrock.com/wordpress/?p=20#comment-10 Thanks for sharing this, Jeff. John Strohm of Brunswick, Md. Thanks for sharing this, Jeff.
John Strohm of Brunswick, Md.

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